How to Pick Up Damsels in Singapore – Advice From A Woman Who Gets Picked Up
I know many guys who just admire pretty ladies from afar and think to themselves "wow I wish I could talk to her", not realising that the dude she’s talking to isn’t her friend, but a stranger who’s attempting to pick her up. It’s everywhere and not as difficult to pull off as you may think.
This guide was compiled from the practices of damsels who have been picked up and guys who have picked up ladies. Our aim is simply to help more Singaporeans meet each other, so they have more options and find more suitable fucking partners for themselves. It’s a scary thought that your life playmate is only limited to the people you went to school or work with. And in Singapore, that is what usually happens.
So don’t limit yourself! Go out there and talk to people! Beginners may want to commence with our earlier "How To Talk To Strangers" guide. Recall to come back and share your practices with us okay!
The Basics: How To Treatment Her
There are too many technologies to list, but I’m just going to attempt to go into some broad categories here. As you attempt it out for yourself, just do what feels more natural for you and the one you’re most comfy with. These are the very basics that you should be familiar with.
1. Eye Contact
This is how you identify the damsels who are more willing to talk. Eye contact is something you just have to master. I’m not entirely sure myself how a ordinary look can convey so much, but we all get what eyes say, don’t we?
So go ahead and make eye contact with her, but don’t just stare creepily. If she looks right back at you, you may want to smile and if she smiles back, you can treatment her. Alternatively, you can pass this glancing back and forward thing a few times to let yourself garner some courage before talking to her.
Two. Talking to Her
Once you’ve got her attention and have determined that she’s receptive, you go up to her and say hi. The hardest part about this is indeed getting over yourself and gathering the courage to speak to her. So just take a deep breath, pop a mint if necessary, put on your most charming smile and talk to her.
What is the most striking thing about her? Tell her. Like her clothing? Let her know. What do you want to find out about her? Ask her. Chances are she’ll take the wheel and ask you some questions about yourself too, but if she doesn’t, just tell her some interesting things that have happened to you to keep things two-sided.
Trio. Physical Contact
Not like touching her all over, no. Just something light like her shoulder or a handshake or her wrist. Non-invasive parts of her bod, basically. This should be subtle and unalarming to her.
To commence, you could wiggle her arm. If she’s wearing a witness or bracelet or ring, you could also hold her wrist/palm to take a closer look and also compliment her on it. This doesn’t work with necklaces tho’ so don’t even think about it.
The Basics: Where to Go
This actually truly depends on what kind of woman you’re looking for. You’ve got to determine what kind of damsel you’re into and do your research – find a place they frequent and remain around at.
But here are some generally popular hotspots to help you get commenced.
Or any other club, truly. People go clubbing to have joy, and most people here are open to making friends and meeting fresh people. Under the hyped up atmosphere at a club where you’re feeling anything but restricted, this is lightly the easiest spot to talk to fresh people. But please, stay away from chicks who are strongly toasted, and if a female says no, she means no. Respect that.
Bookstores
I was barred from exposing the specific bookstore for fear that there will be "80 million creepy boys hounding damsels" there, but yeah bookstores. It’s indeed one of the most amazing places to be picked up, plus chances of meeting an annoying female with no IQ are lower here.
You can treatment a woman directly, or strike a conversation about the book she’s looking at and begin there. I know so many ladies who swoon over guys who read. But don’t be a fake and actually know your shit, or you’ll just be weird.
Starbucks/Any Other Cafe
This is especially true of students who probe in cafes. If she’s studying there, you know that she won’t be leaving that soon, so take your time. Sometimes, it’s good to haul these things out so you don’t come across as too impatient.
There are so many approaches you can take. Tell her directly you think she’s nice, ask her about schoolwork, recommend a drink, anything. If she’s studying with friends, you might want to wait for her to be alone because people do behave differently when alone and when with friends.
I know of some guys who will also talk to other women in queue with them or someone else waiting for their drink. You know, just going in quick.
Public Transport
This one is difficult to pull off, but if you manage to do it, kudos to you. From private practice, I can tell you that public transport guys are either indeed creepy or sleek as silk. There is no in-between.
If she’s listening to music, you could tap her shoulder and ask what she’s listening to. She may be annoyed but all you have to do is be more interesting than her music and bam. Success. Otherwise, truly just talk to her. Confidence is key.
Parks
How many sappy romance films begin off with meeting at a park? She’s jogging, he’s jogging, they somehow just begin talking and things escalate from there. What a wonderful place. Walk your dog at the park. Total chick magnet. Unless she’s allergic to dogs then maybe just stick with jogging.
Again, a land of chance. She’s likely to stick around in the park for a while, it’s so much lighter to talk to strangers in parks. Parks are social spaces. Commence with a cheesy pickup line or a casual comment about her observe or if her shoelaces are untied. So many choices!
Know the game
Before you go out on the playing field, you need to know the rules. There are too many boys out there running around cracking hearts and providing themselves a bad name. No, you don’t want that. That just makes things very messy when you’re eventually ready to lodge for one doll in future.
1. Recognise her Boundaries
If she doesn’t like being touched, don’t touch her. If she’s not into you, leave her alone. And of course, respect goes both ways, so if you don’t like the way she’s treating you, you should leave. Your convenience and safety always come before any other pleasure.
Two. She’s a Player, Not a Trophy
I can’t stress how significant it is to recall that this lady is your equal. You are not a "predator" and she is not "prey" – you are both players of the same game. So back to the very first point, if Player two isn’t ready, the game can’t commence. You are not entitled to her just because you’re showering her with attention.
Three. Have Your Boundaries
Have a good, strong set of values you stand by. For example, "I won’t take anyone’s virginity" or "she has to be totally aware of what she’s getting into". This will prevent you from feeling like a dirtbag and having a reputation that smells like rotten cheese.
But of course, some of these can also cater to your needs so even something is "she’s off the list if there’s no progress by third date" or "I won’t spend more than $100 on her" or even "I’m not going down on anyone" is ideally fine. You just make sure you feel comfy with and remain accountable for what you’re doing.
How NOT to pick up women
Now that we’ve gone through the Dos, here are some Don’ts.
1. Don’t Get Bitter and Angry if She Says No
Never say "well, your loss" or begin furious and getting all emotional on her. Just no. Be charming about it, smile and be cool. Tell her it’s okay, it was a pleasure getting to talk to her, thank you, have a nice day, standard things like that.
Don’t have to put too much effort into this since she’s already said no, but a slick goodbye will at least leave a good impression of you in her mind.
Two. Don’t Stalk
Following her around when she says she needs to leave or suggesting to send her home when you’ve literally just met will make her so awkward she’ll consider migrating to another country. She’ll be even more mortified than Selena.
Trio. Don’t Ask Creepy Questions
e.g. Where do you live? What’s your brassiere size?
Basically anything that’s too intrusive will come across as creepy and that is not the impression you are looking to make on her. Hopefully.
Four. Don’t Waste Your Time If She’s Not Interested
Some damsels are direct about it, others are sweet about it, while everyone else just doesn’t know how to say no or react. But is she uninterested or simply playing hard to get? Word of advice: don’t bother attempting to find out.
- looks at her phone while you’re talking to her
- avoids eye contact
- doesn’t smile/smiles awkwardly/obviously compels smiling
- gives brief answers you can’t build on
- takes more than twelve hours to text back (assuming you somehow got her number)
. just smile and walk away. To me, people who play hard to get (but are actually interested) are the ultimate waste of time. And if she’s actually not interested, why force it? But if you’re someone who’s into these kinds of games, then sure. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Women to Avoid
There is no way to place human beings into neat little categories, so rather than providing you a rundown on what "types" of chicks there are out there, here are a few very general kinds of damsels you should just avoid unless you’re that desperate for hook-up/love/attention. Which you shouldn’t be. That’s sad. And that also makes this unhealthy. So don’t do it.
1. The Drama Queen
Almost indistinguishable from the female that plays hard to get, you know you’ve got a drama queen when she gives you the green light but then thrusts you away and starts flirting with your friend. But then she comes back to you a week later. Just roll your eyes (hard) and walk away.
Identifying traits: talking about her other boy friends too much, being super interested in meeting your man friends, flirts with you then exposes she has a beau, has many boy troubles and seems to like talking about them
Two. Fairytale Damsels
She’s still waiting for Prince Charming to show up and carry her off on his white pony into the horizon.
There are nice damsels who are brainy and like to have joy and know what they’re getting into. But there are the very nice ones who are just virginal and naive and want to live a fairytale life. As much as you attempt not to, you will break her heart. So unless you’re looking for a lifetime commitment, don’t mess with her.
Identifying traits: you’ll know when you meet her – the way she talks and thinks and behaves has a very ‘xiaomeimei’ vibe to it, she’s most likely never had her heart violated, believes in a very simplistic and noble idea of love, trusts you way too lightly and is likely to marry her very first bf. Don’t be the fellow that cracks her heart.
Other FAQs
You most likely still have a few unanswered questions, and hopefully they’re one of the five questions below. These five are the most popular questions guys ask me, so they’ll most likely be interesting to you too.
What’s the difference inbetween picking up damsels and talking to strangers?
Pretty much the only difference is that with picking up women there’s gonna be a buildup of sexual pressure, so you’ll have to be able to manage that pressure slickly.
What do I talk to her about?
- Ask her questions and
- Talk about yourself, but not excessively.
Ask her questions based on how she’s dressed, what she’s doing, what she’s reading/listening to and all that jazz. You could even attempt a cheesy pickup line if you’re courageous enough.
You want to express that a) you think she’s attractive and hence b) you’d like to get to know her better. So ask about her interests and hobbies, but also share some of yours, especially if you’ve got any that coincide.
When do I ask for her number?
The best time to ask is just before you part ways. Never make it the very first thing you ask her, obviously. It’s not compulsory, but it’s nice to drop her a compliment while you ask, like "You’re a indeed interesting person, I’d like to keep in touch if that’s okay with you."
How do I tell her I only want lovemaking?
This is a lot lighter than most people think. If you’re pushing things in the right direction then things will embark to happen. And just when it starts getting steamy (or at any other time you deem to be adequate), tell her that this is all it is – lovemaking. No feelings, no relationship is going to happen. Look her sincerely in the eye and ask her if she’s okay with that. This is significant. Feelings are gooey and heartbreak is unnecessary.
And once you’ve said this, make sure you don’t fall for her. Guys are just as susceptible to catching feelings as women are.
How do I avoid a bad reputation?
If you’re going around banging ladies and violating hearts then some talk/bad rep is unavoidable. So have standards, be selective, and don’t break hearts. But there’s still trussed to be some talk. I’m sure even Mother Teresa had her share of haters.
Recall, the golden rule is to always be a gentleman and, like I have stressed across the article, be as translucent as you can, respect her and recall that she is your equal.
Another peak would be to not go for women in your school/workplace/circle in general if you’re gonna mass pick up damsels. Make "so what/where do you explore/work" one of the very first few questions you ask to make things simpler.
Have Joy! And Stay Safe!
Alright now that you’ve read this, you should be ready enough to go out and begin talking so some damsels! Just recall that it’s okay to mess up, relieve and do you. As you can most likely already tell, intuition and confidence are two of the most significant elements you’ll need.
And of course, you should always be safe with what you’re doing. Don’t do stupid things or illegal things and protect yourself. A moment of pleasure is never worth a lifetime of regret.
How to Pick Up Ladies in Singapore – Advice From A Doll Who Gets Picked Up
How to Pick Up Women in Singapore – Advice From A Damsel Who Gets Picked Up
I know many guys who just admire pretty women from afar and think to themselves "wow I wish I could talk to her", not realising that the man she’s talking to isn’t her friend, but a stranger who’s attempting to pick her up. It’s everywhere and not as difficult to pull off as you may think.
This guide was compiled from the practices of women who have been picked up and guys who have picked up ladies. Our aim is simply to help more Singaporeans meet each other, so they have more options and find more suitable playmates for themselves. It’s a scary thought that your life playmate is only limited to the people you went to school or work with. And in Singapore, that is what usually happens.
So don’t limit yourself! Go out there and talk to people! Beginners may want to begin with our earlier "How To Talk To Strangers" guide. Reminisce to come back and share your practices with us okay!
The Basics: How To Treatment Her
There are too many technologies to list, but I’m just going to attempt to go into some broad categories here. As you attempt it out for yourself, just do what feels more natural for you and the one you’re most comfy with. These are the very basics that you should be familiar with.
1. Eye Contact
This is how you identify the women who are more willing to talk. Eye contact is something you just have to master. I’m not entirely sure myself how a plain look can convey so much, but we all get what eyes say, don’t we?
So go ahead and make eye contact with her, but don’t just stare creepily. If she looks right back at you, you may want to smile and if she smiles back, you can treatment her. Alternatively, you can pass this glancing back and forward thing a few times to let yourself garner some courage before talking to her.
Two. Talking to Her
Once you’ve got her attention and have determined that she’s receptive, you go up to her and say hi. The hardest part about this is truly getting over yourself and gathering the courage to speak to her. So just take a deep breath, pop a mint if necessary, put on your most charming smile and talk to her.
What is the most striking thing about her? Tell her. Like her clothing? Let her know. What do you want to find out about her? Ask her. Chances are she’ll take the wheel and ask you some questions about yourself too, but if she doesn’t, just tell her some interesting things that have happened to you to keep things two-sided.
Trio. Physical Contact
Not like touching her all over, no. Just something light like her shoulder or a handshake or her wrist. Non-invasive parts of her assets, basically. This should be subtle and unalarming to her.
To commence, you could jiggle her arm. If she’s wearing a observe or bracelet or ring, you could also hold her wrist/mitt to take a closer look and also compliment her on it. This doesn’t work with necklaces tho’ so don’t even think about it.
The Basics: Where to Go
This actually indeed depends on what kind of female you’re looking for. You’ve got to determine what kind of woman you’re into and do your research – find a place they frequent and remain around at.
But here are some generally popular hotspots to help you get commenced.
Or any other club, indeed. People go clubbing to have joy, and most people here are open to making friends and meeting fresh people. Under the hyped up atmosphere at a club where you’re feeling anything but restricted, this is lightly the easiest spot to talk to fresh people. But please, stay away from chicks who are powerfully toasted, and if a lady says no, she means no. Respect that.
Bookstores
I was barred from exposing the specific bookstore for fear that there will be "80 million creepy studs hounding chicks" there, but yeah bookstores. It’s truly one of the most amazing places to be picked up, plus chances of meeting an annoying chick with no IQ are lower here.
You can treatment a lady directly, or strike a conversation about the book she’s looking at and embark there. I know so many damsels who swoon over guys who read. But don’t be a fake and actually know your shit, or you’ll just be weird.
Starbucks/Any Other Cafe
This is especially true of students who explore in cafes. If she’s studying there, you know that she won’t be leaving that soon, so take your time. Sometimes, it’s good to haul these things out so you don’t come across as too impatient.
There are so many approaches you can take. Tell her directly you think she’s nice, ask her about schoolwork, recommend a drink, anything. If she’s studying with friends, you might want to wait for her to be alone because people do behave differently when alone and when with friends.
I know of some guys who will also talk to other ladies in queue with them or someone else waiting for their drink. You know, just going in quick.
Public Transport
This one is difficult to pull off, but if you manage to do it, kudos to you. From private practice, I can tell you that public transport guys are either indeed creepy or slick as silk. There is no in-between.
If she’s listening to music, you could tap her shoulder and ask what she’s listening to. She may be annoyed but all you have to do is be more interesting than her music and bam. Success. Otherwise, indeed just talk to her. Confidence is key.
Parks
How many sappy romance films begin off with meeting at a park? She’s jogging, he’s jogging, they somehow just embark talking and things escalate from there. What a wonderful place. Walk your dog at the park. Total chick magnet. Unless she’s allergic to dogs then maybe just stick with jogging.
Again, a land of chance. She’s likely to stick around in the park for a while, it’s so much lighter to talk to strangers in parks. Parks are social spaces. Begin with a cheesy pickup line or a casual comment about her see or if her shoelaces are untied. So many choices!
Know the game
Before you go out on the playing field, you need to know the rules. There are too many boys out there running around cracking hearts and providing themselves a bad name. No, you don’t want that. That just makes things very messy when you’re ultimately ready to lodge for one damsel in future.
1. Recognise her Boundaries
If she doesn’t like being touched, don’t touch her. If she’s not into you, leave her alone. And of course, respect goes both ways, so if you don’t like the way she’s treating you, you should leave. Your convenience and safety always come before any other pleasure.
Two. She’s a Player, Not a Trophy
I can’t stress how significant it is to recall that this doll is your equal. You are not a "predator" and she is not "prey" – you are both players of the same game. So back to the very first point, if Player two isn’t ready, the game can’t commence. You are not entitled to her just because you’re showering her with attention.
Trio. Have Your Boundaries
Have a good, strong set of values you stand by. For example, "I won’t take anyone’s virginity" or "she has to be downright aware of what she’s getting into". This will prevent you from feeling like a dirtbag and having a reputation that smells like rotten cheese.
But of course, some of these can also cater to your needs so even something is "she’s off the list if there’s no progress by third date" or "I won’t spend more than $100 on her" or even "I’m not going down on anyone" is flawlessly fine. You just make sure you feel convenient with and remain accountable for what you’re doing.
How NOT to pick up women
Now that we’ve gone through the Dos, here are some Don’ts.
1. Don’t Get Bitter and Angry if She Says No
Never say "well, your loss" or embark furious and getting all emotional on her. Just no. Be charming about it, smile and be cool. Tell her it’s okay, it was a pleasure getting to talk to her, thank you, have a nice day, standard things like that.
Don’t have to put too much effort into this since she’s already said no, but a slick goodbye will at least leave a good impression of you in her mind.
Two. Don’t Stalk
Following her around when she says she needs to leave or suggesting to send her home when you’ve literally just met will make her so awkward she’ll consider migrating to another country. She’ll be even more mortified than Selena.
Trio. Don’t Ask Creepy Questions
e.g. Where do you live? What’s your brassiere size?
Basically anything that’s too intrusive will come across as creepy and that is not the impression you are looking to make on her. Hopefully.
Four. Don’t Waste Your Time If She’s Not Interested
Some damsels are direct about it, others are sweet about it, while everyone else just doesn’t know how to say no or react. But is she uninterested or simply playing hard to get? Word of advice: don’t bother attempting to find out.
- looks at her phone while you’re talking to her
- avoids eye contact
- doesn’t smile/smiles awkwardly/obviously coerces smiling
- gives brief answers you can’t build on
- takes more than twelve hours to text back (assuming you somehow got her number)
. just smile and walk away. To me, people who play hard to get (but are actually interested) are the ultimate waste of time. And if she’s actually not interested, why force it? But if you’re someone who’s into these kinds of games, then sure. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Damsels to Avoid
There is no way to place human beings into neat little categories, so rather than providing you a rundown on what "types" of ladies there are out there, here are a few very general kinds of damsels you should just avoid unless you’re that desperate for hookup/love/attention. Which you shouldn’t be. That’s sad. And that also makes this unhealthy. So don’t do it.
1. The Drama Queen
Almost indistinguishable from the chick that plays hard to get, you know you’ve got a drama queen when she gives you the green light but then shoves you away and starts flirting with your friend. But then she comes back to you a week later. Just roll your eyes (hard) and walk away.
Identifying traits: talking about her other boy friends too much, being super interested in meeting your stud friends, flirts with you then exposes she has a beau, has many boy troubles and seems to like talking about them
Two. Fairytale Ladies
She’s still waiting for Prince Charming to show up and carry her off on his white pony into the horizon.
There are nice damsels who are clever and like to have joy and know what they’re getting into. But there are the very nice ones who are just virginal and naive and want to live a fairytale life. As much as you attempt not to, you will break her heart. So unless you’re looking for a lifetime commitment, don’t mess with her.
Identifying traits: you’ll know when you meet her – the way she talks and thinks and behaves has a very ‘xiaomeimei’ vibe to it, she’s most likely never had her heart violated, believes in a very simplistic and noble idea of love, trusts you way too lightly and is likely to marry her very first beau. Don’t be the man that violates her heart.
Other FAQs
You most likely still have a few unanswered questions, and hopefully they’re one of the five questions below. These five are the most popular questions guys ask me, so they’ll most likely be interesting to you too.
What’s the difference inbetween picking up chicks and talking to strangers?
Pretty much the only difference is that with picking up ladies there’s gonna be a buildup of sexual strain, so you’ll have to be able to manage that stress sleekly.
What do I talk to her about?
- Ask her questions and
- Talk about yourself, but not excessively.
Ask her questions based on how she’s dressed, what she’s doing, what she’s reading/listening to and all that jazz. You could even attempt a cheesy pickup line if you’re courageous enough.
You want to express that a) you think she’s attractive and hence b) you’d like to get to know her better. So ask about her interests and hobbies, but also share some of yours, especially if you’ve got any that coincide.
When do I ask for her number?
The best time to ask is just before you part ways. Never make it the very first thing you ask her, obviously. It’s not compulsory, but it’s nice to drop her a compliment while you ask, like "You’re a indeed interesting person, I’d like to keep in touch if that’s okay with you."
How do I tell her I only want hook-up?
This is a lot lighter than most people think. If you’re pushing things in the right direction then things will commence to happen. And just when it starts getting steamy (or at any other time you deem to be suitable), tell her that this is all it is – lovemaking. No feelings, no relationship is going to happen. Look her sincerely in the eye and ask her if she’s okay with that. This is significant. Feelings are gooey and heartbreak is unnecessary.
And once you’ve said this, make sure you don’t fall for her. Guys are just as susceptible to catching feelings as chicks are.
How do I avoid a bad reputation?
If you’re going around banging women and cracking hearts then some talk/bad rep is unavoidable. So have standards, be selective, and don’t break hearts. But there’s still roped to be some talk. I’m sure even Mother Teresa had her share of haters.
Reminisce, the golden rule is to always be a gentleman and, like I have stressed across the article, be as see-through as you can, respect her and reminisce that she is your equal.
Another peak would be to not go for women in your school/workplace/circle in general if you’re gonna mass pick up damsels. Make "so what/where do you investigate/work" one of the very first few questions you ask to make things simpler.
Have Joy! And Stay Safe!
Alright now that you’ve read this, you should be ready enough to go out and commence talking so some damsels! Just reminisce that it’s okay to mess up, loosen and do you. As you can very likely already tell, intuition and confidence are two of the most significant elements you’ll need.
And of course, you should always be safe with what you’re doing. Don’t do stupid things or illegal things and protect yourself. A moment of pleasure is never worth a lifetime of regret.