What to Say on Tinder: Hook-up Hookup in four Messages
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So you're embarking to get a few Tinder matches… that's cool, congrats!
It's a good feeling, especially since you're matching with the type of ladies that you actually want to meet – chicks that you'd date casually and hookup with for no strings affixed lovemaking.
And maybe if you find a lady that's indeed interesting, you'd be open to dating her with the potential for a relationship down the track.
What I also get is that you're finding it difficult to talk to chicks on Tinder.
You're an interesting man, but you're fighting with a few things when it comes to talking on Tinder:
- Chicks aren't replying to your messages
- You're fighting to keep the conversation going
- Chicks seem to stop your conversation abruptly
- Chicks lose interest in what you say
- You don't indeed know the best way to flirt on Tinder
- Your conversations are going stale – there's no joy, no witty banter
- You feel inpatient because your conversation goes on for ages
- You're not indeed sure when is the best time to ask for a women number
- You're not truly sure when is the best time, or if you should, ask a chick to meet up or go on a date
And because you're fighting to talk to women, because you don't know what to say on Tinder… you haven't been able to go from a Tinder match to physically meeting a damsel… you haven't been able to have a Tinder hookup, or all that Tinder lovemaking that you're after.
So you just want to know…
What do I say on Tinder so I can lightly get a chicks number, then physically go on a date, or hookup for some casual lovemaking?
See, I told you I get it 😉
And that's exactly what I'm going to tell you in this post .
I'm going to tell you what to say so you can lightly talk your way to getting a women number. I'm going to tell you what to say to get a date, hangout, hookup, or casual hookup, locked in before you even leave Tinder
And best of all, I'm going to display you how you can do this super-quickly, time and time again, with dame after woman after damsel… all without truly switching much at all.
I'll demonstrate you how you don't have to be a ruthless asshole about it. How you don't have to fit a certain profile – you don't have to be a masculine model, you don't have to switch your personalty…. how you can still be totally yourself.
I'll showcase you how it can be effortless and joy.
And I'll display you why you're doing everything totally rearwards when it comes to talking to ladies on Tinder.
I know you're excited to find what you should be telling on Tinder, so let's get into it…
What to Say on Tinder Very first
Commence The Conversation with a Good Opener
Tinder is a crowded jungle.
When you (attempt to) embark a conversation with a lady, chances are she's already talking with a few guys and has a handful (or more) of other guys that are attempting to talk with her.
So when you send your lovely little “Hi”, or “Hey, how was your weekend?” message to her to attempt and embark a conversation, it's no wonder she doesn't react… ten other guys are telling the exact same thing as you!
Below are the “good” Tinder openers from an experiment that we did, exposing what messages a lovely woman on Tinder receives:
Here's the nice chick:
And here's what guys said to her very first up – these are their openers:
Here's what you very likely noticed about what most of the Tinder matches said… Or rather don't say: 50% of them didn't even send a message, not a single message.
And, you most likely also noticed the other 50% send boring, generic openers like “Hi :)”
It's alright for a lady to say what she wants on Tinder, or for a masculine model…. but for a normal, average fellow like you, there's only one decent option:
You need to take the initiative and embark the Tinder conversation, and you need to stand out from the pack and grab her attention by sending a good opening message.
That's what will give you the best chance of kicking off a joy, flirty conversation. That's what will set you up to get her number, a Tinder date, Tinder hookup or Tinder hook-up.
So, What's a Good Tinder Opener?
A good Tinder opener, one which requests a ladies attention, has the these qualities:
- It's different – it's not “Hi” or “Hey” or “How was your weekend”
- It makes the lady feel some emotion and it makes her think – excitement, happiness, cheerfulness, flattery, confusion, maybe even slightly insulted. The more the merrier.
- It's tailored to her and to her profile – it uses her name, references and reflects her photos or profile.
Here's an example:
For Your Information – That actually is a Siri pickup line (Siri's got game!):
Or here's another Siri line you could use.
Recall the intro:
- You: So I just asked Siri what I should say to a female with a lovely smile on Tinder…
- You:(Wait for her to reply)
- Her: Haha what?
- You: Siri said: Tell [Her Name]…
- You: Is your name Bluetooth?… Because I'm indeed feeling a connection
Here's another example of a superb Tinder opener – it's unique, it's tailored and it evokes emotion:
It's unlikely for a dame not to react to openers like that… And it's unlikely for a female not to be intrigued and interested in you because you're different, so going further in the conversation is effortless.
How to write a Good Tinder Opener
Just be creative, like we were in these Christmas themed Tinder pickup lines that women loved.
Albeit admittedly, being creative is lighter said than done…
So if you're like most guys and fight being creative, you can use our POWER Messages that are in our free Date-Talk Cheat-Pack which you can download below..
Click below to download the free Date-Talk Cheat Pack that includes some amazing openers for you to use:
Now you know the very first thing that you have to say on Tinder, let's budge on to indeed good stuff that will totally switch the way you talk to women on Tinder.
What to Say on Tinder After Beginning a Conversation
Tinder Strategy
This 2nd step is where Tinder strategy comes into play.
There are a million different strategies and technologies to attract chicks, both on Tinder and in-person.
There are uncountable approaches that will get you the Tinder dates, Tinder hookups and Tinder lovemaking that you're after.
Albeit, not all approaches or strategies are equal.
Some are effortless, some are difficult.
Some take days and others minutes.
Some are almost certain while others are high risk.
And some are… well, just crap.
The method I'm going to showcase you today isn't flawless either – there will be occasions when it doesn't work.
After all, there's no treatment that works 100% of the time.
But I do consider this method to be one of the best, if not the best, when it comes to using Tinder to quickly and consistently meeting a lot of chicks in person – not just collecting numbers, but actually getting real dates, hookups and hook-up.
This method is one of the best, if not the best, when it comes to quickly and consistently getting real dates, hookups and hook-up… Here's why… This method is:
- Very successful – it squeezes the most physical meetups with women from your list without being wasteful.
- Amazingly rapid– quickly stir from match to physical meetup, in as little as four messages.
- Minimum effort– you can use the same, short-routine on each damsel, without truly thinking.
And perhaps best of all:
- You can be yourself – You will always be true to yourself, and attract women in a nice way… You don't have to be a ruthless asshole to succeed, like some would have you think.
This method I'm going to demonstrate you is significantly different to the treatment that most guys on Tinder use.
Why The Common Tinder Strategy Doesn't Work
The majority of guys on Tinder have no strategy when it comes to using Tinder to meet up with ladies.
They say “Hi” and then talk away randomly, hoping that the doll will miraculously say “let's hangout”, or attempt and make the damsel attracted to them by the sheer volume of conversation.
Other guys have a “strategy”, but they've based it on what they've seen other guys on Tinder do. I call it the common strategy.
It's no wonder then that this common strategy which copies the deeds of most guys on Tinder is exactly the same as the no-strategy treatment.
In the end, both groups don't know what it takes to be successful on Tinder… it's just that one group realizes they don't know while the other doesn't.
So whether a dude's using no-strategy or using the common strategy (recall they're the same thing), this is usually how it goes down when they're attempting to meet a woman off Tinder:
Is that similar to what you say on Tinder when you're attempting to hookup or go on a date?
It's packed with opportunities to fail. It's packed with opportunities to crash and burn.
It's hopeful. The evident shortfall with this treatment is that the fellow isn't certain that he's got a date until very late in the process (step 6). This means significant time and effort is wasted before he finds out that she's not indeed interested in meeting up – he's just wasted a week talking to a damsel who doesn't want to meet him. Sound familiar?
It's blind. Just like being hopeful, the man isn't entirely sure if the woman wants to hookup, date, or just hangout until right at the end when he asks her out. If she only wants to hangout while he wants lovemaking, he's just wasted his time.
It's a constant pursue. The boy pursues to get her number, then again he pursues to hear, “Yes, I’ll go on a date with you.” It’s hard work and no joy. Then after all that he can only hope that woman turns up for the date. The firmer a boy pursues, the less attraction she will feel toward him. This is where severe disinterest sets in.
It takes a long time. The man has to scramble to hold her attention and maintain her interest for an extended period. This is why conversation dries up or stops totally, causing a lady to lose interest. And the fact that the conversation revolves around boring topics doesn't help.
A high flake rate. The time framework inbetween asking for a date and going on a date is petite. She might have only said yes to be nice or maybe she switches her mind, which means she’ll end up cancelling the meet up (aka flaking) at the last moment. This frequently happens to some guys , and they believe this sort of flaking is normal and expected on Tinder.
So you can see that the way most guys talk on Tinder is ineffective – it's sluggish, it's risky and it takes a lot of effort.
If you want consistent results you need to stop floundering on that treacherous date path that most guys go after… You need to embark implementing a strategy that’s proactive and laser-focused.
I'm going to showcase you what this proactive and laser-focused strategy is and exactly how you can use it to meet up with a flow of women.
The strategy will make things a hell of a lot lighter and quicker for you…
Cultivate a Date: Plant the Seed with Date-Talk
**When I say “date” from here on I'm using it as a substitute for any meet up. It could be an actual date, a hookup or a casual hangout – I'll tell you more about it later.
This is the turning point which rolls the common Tinder strategy on it's head.
Rather than asking for a date at the very end of the Tinder interaction, the topic of a date is raised at the beginning of the Tinder conversation.
It means that instead of waiting for the “flawless time” to ask for a date, you raise the topic of the date as quickly as the conversation permits.
Reminisce that this isn't a request for a date, it's simply bringing date-talk in as a topic of conversation.
It's called Planting The Seed – it's where you subtly (or not so subtly) plant an idea in their minds, creating an pic about your (possible) date practice.
The seed that you plant will be fed by her imagination, and over time it will crystallize into a definite date-expectation that excites her.
It sounds a little airy-fairy, I know, but all it basically means is you mention a possible date which gets damsels thinking about actually meeting you.
It converts you from just another Tinder-guy in the crowd to a stud that she's thinking about meeting up with. And that's no petite thing.
It converts you from just another Tinder-guy in the crowd to a stud that she's thinking about meeting up with. And that's no puny thing.
Providing you a leg-up from the rest of the Tinder competition is just one reason why bringing date-talk into the conversation early works so well, here are more:
- Date-talk provides a clear path Early date-talk gives your conversation direction and purpose, a light at the end of the tunnel. You won't have to bounce from (boring) topic to (boring) topic, hoping that somehow you randomly hit the jackpot and get a date. You and the woman will both be on the same page, which means you’re able to progress to a physical meetup quicker. It’s lean and efficient.
- Date-talk is amazing conversation fodder Date-talk is one of the juiciest topics to talk about on Tinder, it's lustful and interesting so it's almost unlikely not raise feelings of excitement and happiness. Leaving that topic out until the end of the process is exceptionally wasteful, yet most guys don't even realize what they're missing. Rather than being a brief and awkward topic after getting a girl’s number, date talk should become a pile of your Tinder conversations – the ultimate allurement instrument in your arsenal.
- Date-talk smashes through communication and attitude barriers The majority of Tinder conversations are spent tip-toeing around the elephant in the room: you both find each other attractive, you both sort of want to meet up, but you feel like you need to play a game to avoid the topic. Date-talk is like releasing a pressure valve, with the result being totally open and fair communication. It's refreshing.
- Date-talk maximizes anticipation Have you noticed how you’re more excited when you’re about to go on vacation than you are coming home? That's because of anticipation, an amazingly powerful emotion. Bringing up date talk early in the conversation means you can squeeze out all the anticipation from this sweet topic, leaving nothing behind.
- Date-talk is less work for you You don’t have to pursue. The seed that you plant will grow into anticipation and make her feel excited. After that it will bloom into expectation so that going on a date is a certainty… Because of that, going on a date is no longer a question of IF, but WHEN, which means you never have to ASK. The clunky and scary “So would you like to go on a date with me?” proposal is no longer an issue for you.
- Date-talk is certain Most damsels love being led – it’s like you’re reading them an arousing story where they’re the main character. And because the date is implied, you'll never have to ask (or grovel) for a date meaning you can maintain a certain persona. You'll be certain of your date much earlier, providing you chunk of mind.
Rather than following the long and treacherous “Will you go on a date with me?” path that’s total of hard work, plant the seed early and let her imagination do all the hard work for you.
But wait, what if she doesn't want to go on a date?
So what happens if your conversation cracks down during date talk?
What if she says she doesn’t want to go on a date or dangle out with you?
Well… That’s a FANTASTIC outcome!
It seems strange to think that, but the reason is elementary…
Because rather than wasting your time and energy on a dud prospect, which would happen if you left date talk to later in the conversation, you can instead concentrate your efforts on high-potential Tinder targets.
By rapidly filtering your high-potential matches, you’re able to concentrate your efforts on those that will give you the best results, making your Tinder successes skyrocket!
How to Raise Date-Talk and Plant The Seed
So now that you know how powerful this method can be, here's how you do it:
1. Look for an chance to strike while the metal is hot.
The best time to plant the seed (raise date-talk) is when your conversation is going well and she seems reasonably interested in you – it could be after you make her laugh, after she compliments you or after she’s asked you a series of private questions (which demonstrates interest).
You want to do it as quickly as the conversation permits – it might be instantaneously after your opener, or it might be your 5th or 6th message.
Two. Once you see your chance, raise the idea of your meet up.
Reminisce that you always have the capability to guide the conversation wherever you want. Funneling the conversation toward the topic of your date is no exception, and it’s exceptionally effortless.
You simply pick a comment or topic out of your current conversation and link it to your date.
The suggestion for the date should flow sleekly from conversation, with an air of acceptance that the very first date is a given inbetween the two of you and incorporating a hint of humor.
You can do it by relating the current conversation topic to a date:
Recall originally you're just casually raising the topic of the date – keep it lighthearted.
Or you can simply bring up the date topic from out of nowhere:
Trio. Provide ordinary imagery of a positive date/meetup practice.
This will create a vision in her mind and begin to build the anticipation of your date.
This step can be incorporated when you raise the topic (Two) or instantly after.
Be descriptive but don’t go overboard; you want to give her mind enough room to fantasize.
Dangle the date before her eyes and let her mind do the rest.
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That’s it! … Once you’ve ended step #Trio the date will be well and truly planted in her mind.
It’s now an expected event rather than a possible or even unlikely event – which is exactly what you want.
Using Tinder for Hook-up, a Hookup or a Normal First-Date
Whether you want a Tinder hookup, a date with a relationship in mind, or innumerable nights of Tinder hookup, the date-talk method is still the same.
The only switch that you need to make is in relation to the meet up that you describe (step #Three above).
If you're only looking for hookup, then you need to subtly (or not so subtly) allude to this, rather than creating expectations of a normal date which will potentially lead to a relationship.
It's best to be fully open and fair about what you're looking for.
If you want an intimate meet up, don't say you want a date and pretend you're looking for a relationship – you'll be wasting the ladies time and you're own.
But you can't just say “come over to my place and love intercourse”… well you can, but your success rate will be low because that description is not provocative or intriguing.
So spruce your description up a bit.
Rather than “come over and have hookup”, use a very basic description like “we'll kick back, witness some netflix with chocolate-chip ice juices and cuddle on the couch…” which is a much better alternative.
It doesn't specify “hookup” exactly, but it gives and indication that an intimate evening can be expected, and will most likely lead to hook-up.
Here's an example of a damsels description for a date – after being asked directly what she dreamed to do on a date:
Cuddle-fest meant hook-up – she said (and demonstrated) this after she wrote this message.
But be mindful of how the lady responds to your descriptive suggestion, because she might just think all it means is Netflix and harmless cuddles!
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Your Chance for Tinder Hook-up
There is endless chance for joy and casual hookups on Tinder.
There's absolutely no reason why you can't have hookup with a different lady each night of the week using this method ( it happens! )…
There a chicks that are looking for the exact same thing as you, and that's fine.
But it should be noted that albeit there's potential to go on a date with almost every one of your Tinder matches, the proportion of chicks who will be open to hook-up on the very first meeting is lower.
Fence sitters who don’t normally meet up on the very first date can be swayed. But in any point in time, there will be fewer women who are loosely open and convenient with having hook-up with a stranger from Tinder on the very first meeting, compared to 2nd or subsequent dates.
If hook-up is all you want, you’ll be able to fulfill your needs more consistently with some patience by going on two or more dates.
With each successive date you go on the probability of more intimate meet ups will increase.
Generally, it’s the third or fourth date that will produce what you desire.
Who knows, with a little patience you might even build a good relationship!
But keep in mind that with each successive date, the bond, emotions and expectations inbetween you and the woman will also switch.
This comes with an inherent responsibility to manage those relationships – for the sake of the damsels you are meeting and also to avoid unenviable and messy circumstances.
What I'm telling is go for what you want, but also be aware of what they want and be respectful.
With that said, let's wrap it up!…
What to say on Tinder to Get a Chicks Number
Let's recap what the doll has been thinking up until now
- She's attracted to you – you matched!
- She was intrigued and interested after you sent a good opener.
- She's loving flirting with you (with date-talk).
She's interested in meeting up with you (confirmed by date-talk).
That's basically everything you need to progress to a date or hookup – which is pretty cool considering that you would have achieve it in just a few brief messages and in a matter of minutes.
Now, you could proceed flirting and liking the conversation… but that will only increase the risk of having the conversation turn stale, or stop entirely.
You're already in a winning position: you've got the meetup.
You can't get in a better position that that…
BUT, you CAN go rearwards by talking too much and having the conversation go stale.
So it's always best to recognize when you're going well and don't thrust it – having her (and you) wanting more is always a better option than overdoing it… Less is more!
Now the only thing you need Tinder for is getting her number.
Previously, when you were using the common Tinder strategy, you might have found it difficult, and a little scary to get a number… because indeed, you had no reason to ask for it.
There was no future expectation of anything happening, so you just would have hoped that she would suggest it up you.
But now that exact same task becomes effortless because you have a strong reason for requesting it – you've got a meetup to organize. So all you need to say is something like:
“What's your number so we can organize the details of our [insert meetup description]”
You've acquired her number , she's interested in you and she wants to go on a date with you !
Pretty cool, huh!?
You now know exactly what to say on Tinder to get what you want 🙂
…But there's just one more thing.
You also need to know what NOT to say on Tinder so your dates and hookups don't fall down the drain because you say the wrong thing.
What Not to Say on Tinder
Conversation Mistakes
A lot of the time if you simply avoid conversation mistakes, you’ll impress the woman you're talking to by default.
Here is the list of errors you need to be aware of and avoid at all costs.
- Don’t concentrate on boring information and topics. Avoid topics like the weather, work and school, which people talk about every single day. Your greatest danger is routine and familiarity.
- Don’t be afraid to fail – to be bold and take risks. If you always tiptoe around, you’ll never make an impression on your Tinder target. Treat Tinder like the game it is; attempt out different methods and approaches. If something fails, learn from it and then play again.
If you always tiptoe around, you’ll never make an impression…
- Don’t argue and get defensive. You should arch like the branches in the wind, always staying silent and collected.
- Don’t make the mistake of asking lots of questions in an effort to create conversation. Your conversation shouldn’t be an interrogation packed with interview-style questions and answers. Have you ever noticed how old friends speak in statements? Their conversation isn’t a series of back and forward questions, but rather interesting statements that feed off one another.
- Don’t be negative. Nagging, criticism and complaining are ugly qualities that will bring the mood of the conversation down.
- Don’t overshare. Oversharing leads to boredom and familiarity. It’s a superb paradox – the less she knows about you, the more she’ll want to know. Getting to know each other isn’t a race, so don’t force it. Let it happen naturally.
- Don’t tell her directly that you’re a nice or funny stud. It reeks of desperation and insecurity. Excellent guys don’t need to tell people they’re nice or funny. It will expose itself naturally through the conversation.
- Don’t unnecessarily apologize. Apologizing unnecessarily to a dame you only commenced talking with is the quickest way to turn her off you. If you make a mistake or say an unfunny joke, don’t run or hide from it – own it! Learn from the practice and don’t dwell on it, she’ll quickly leave behind.
- Don’t make the mistake of over-complimenting damsels to make them feel good. They receive the same compliments every day. Give them an occasional and unique compliment and it will keep them wanting more.
- Don’t let conversations affect your emotions. Keep yourself busy, have conversations with lots of damsels and don’t stress if they don’t reply straight away.
- Don’t be overly persistent. You may think that tremendous your Tinder target with attention will woo her of your affection – instead it will coax her of your impatience and insecurity.
- Don’t talk too much about yourself. The conversational concentrate should be on her – everyone’s dearest topic is themselves. When women say things like, “He was so interesting” or “He is so effortless to get along with,” sometimes it’s just a substitute for, “I was the concentrate of the conversation, and it made me feel good.” Plus, when you’re focusing on your Tinder target, you’ll be less self-conscious, which will make you seem more certain.
If you avoid the conversation mistakes you'll be likely to impress the dame you're talking to automatically.
What to Say on Tinder: Summary
Utter Tinder Conversation and Message Examples
Here are a duo of utter examples of what to say on Tinder using the method that we've been through, all the way from commence to finish: And here's the rest of the Siri conversation I showcased you earlier:
That goes to showcase how quick and effortless it can be to get a damsels number, and get a date or Tinder hookup lined up.
Four messages is not out of the ordinary. But there's no need to race, anywhere from 4-12 messages will be fine.
Conclusion
A Tinder match means you're both attracted to each other and you're both (kind of) interested in meeting up.
So talk about meeting up, flirt and have joy discussing your potential date.
Be fair about what you want, but say it in an a way that's enticing.
Then when you're both excited for meeting up, get her number and meet up!
…It all seems pretty evident how you can lightly get a date or hookup using Tinder, doesn't it? 😉
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What to Say on Tinder: Hook-up Hookup in four Messages, Tinder Temptation
What to Say on Tinder: Hook-up Hookup in four Messages
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So you're commencing to get a few Tinder matches… that's cool, congrats!
It's a good feeling, especially since you're matching with the type of damsels that you actually want to meet – ladies that you'd date casually and hookup with for no strings affixed hook-up.
And maybe if you find a dame that's truly interesting, you'd be open to dating her with the potential for a relationship down the track.
What I also get is that you're finding it difficult to talk to damsels on Tinder.
You're an interesting dude, but you're fighting with a few things when it comes to talking on Tinder:
- Women aren't replying to your messages
- You're fighting to keep the conversation going
- Ladies seem to stop your conversation abruptly
- Ladies lose interest in what you say
- You don't truly know the best way to flirt on Tinder
- Your conversations are going stale – there's no joy, no witty banter
- You feel inpatient because your conversation goes on for ages
- You're not indeed sure when is the best time to ask for a ladies number
- You're not indeed sure when is the best time, or if you should, ask a female to meet up or go on a date
And because you're fighting to talk to chicks, because you don't know what to say on Tinder… you haven't been able to go from a Tinder match to physically meeting a doll… you haven't been able to have a Tinder hookup, or all that Tinder hook-up that you're after.
So you just want to know…
What do I say on Tinder so I can lightly get a chicks number, then physically go on a date, or hookup for some casual hookup?
See, I told you I get it 😉
And that's exactly what I'm going to tell you in this post .
I'm going to tell you what to say so you can lightly talk your way to getting a chicks number. I'm going to tell you what to say to get a date, hangout, hookup, or casual hook-up, locked in before you even leave Tinder
And best of all, I'm going to display you how you can do this super-quickly, time and time again, with female after woman after female… all without truly switching much at all.
I'll display you how you don't have to be a ruthless asshole about it. How you don't have to fit a certain profile – you don't have to be a masculine model, you don't have to switch your personalty…. how you can still be totally yourself.
I'll showcase you how it can be effortless and joy.
And I'll showcase you why you're doing everything entirely rearwards when it comes to talking to women on Tinder.
I know you're excited to find what you should be telling on Tinder, so let's get into it…
What to Say on Tinder Very first
Begin The Conversation with a Good Opener
Tinder is a crowded jungle.
When you (attempt to) commence a conversation with a woman, chances are she's already talking with a few guys and has a handful (or more) of other guys that are attempting to talk with her.
So when you send your lovely little “Hi”, or “Hey, how was your weekend?” message to her to attempt and begin a conversation, it's no wonder she doesn't react… ten other guys are telling the exact same thing as you!
Below are the “good” Tinder openers from an experiment that we did, exposing what messages a nice dame on Tinder receives:
Here's the adorable woman:
And here's what guys said to her very first up – these are their openers:
Here's what you very likely noticed about what most of the Tinder matches said… Or rather don't say: 50% of them didn't even send a message, not a single message.
And, you most likely also noticed the other 50% send boring, generic openers like “Hi :)”
It's alright for a doll to say what she wants on Tinder, or for a masculine model…. but for a normal, average fellow like you, there's only one decent option:
You need to take the initiative and commence the Tinder conversation, and you need to stand out from the pack and grab her attention by sending a good opening message.
That's what will give you the best chance of embarking a joy, flirty conversation. That's what will set you up to get her number, a Tinder date, Tinder hookup or Tinder hook-up.
So, What's a Good Tinder Opener?
A good Tinder opener, one which requests a damsels attention, has the these qualities:
- It's different – it's not “Hi” or “Hey” or “How was your weekend”
- It makes the doll feel some emotion and it makes her think – excitement, happiness, cheerfulness, flattery, confusion, maybe even slightly insulted. The more the merrier.
- It's tailored to her and to her profile – it uses her name, references and reflects her photos or profile.
Here's an example:
For Your Information – That actually is a Siri pickup line (Siri's got game!):
Or here's another Siri line you could use.
Recall the intro:
- You: So I just asked Siri what I should say to a damsel with a lovely smile on Tinder…
- You:(Wait for her to reply)
- Her: Haha what?
- You: Siri said: Tell [Her Name]…
- You: Is your name Bluetooth?… Because I'm indeed feeling a connection
Here's another example of a excellent Tinder opener – it's unique, it's tailored and it evokes emotion:
It's unlikely for a female not to react to openers like that… And it's unlikely for a damsel not to be intrigued and interested in you because you're different, so going further in the conversation is effortless.
How to write a Good Tinder Opener
Just be creative, like we were in these Christmas themed Tinder pickup lines that chicks loved.
Albeit admittedly, being creative is lighter said than done…
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Now you know the very first thing that you have to say on Tinder, let's stir on to indeed good stuff that will fully switch the way you talk to damsels on Tinder.
What to Say on Tinder After Kicking off a Conversation
Tinder Strategy
This 2nd step is where Tinder strategy comes into play.
There are a million different strategies and mechanisms to attract chicks, both on Tinder and in-person.
There are innumerable approaches that will get you the Tinder dates, Tinder hookups and Tinder hook-up that you're after.
Albeit, not all approaches or strategies are equal.
Some are effortless, some are difficult.
Some take days and others minutes.
Some are almost certain while others are high risk.
And some are… well, just crap.
The method I'm going to showcase you today isn't ideal either – there will be occasions when it doesn't work.
After all, there's no treatment that works 100% of the time.
But I do consider this method to be one of the best, if not the best, when it comes to using Tinder to quickly and consistently meeting a lot of damsels in person – not just collecting numbers, but actually getting real dates, hookups and hook-up.
This method is one of the best, if not the best, when it comes to quickly and consistently getting real dates, hookups and lovemaking… Here's why… This method is:
- Very successful – it squeezes the most physical meetups with damsels from your list without being wasteful.
- Exceptionally rapid– quickly budge from match to physical meetup, in as little as four messages.
- Minimum effort– you can use the same, short-routine on each lady, without indeed thinking.
And perhaps best of all:
- You can be yourself – You will always be true to yourself, and attract ladies in a nice way… You don't have to be a ruthless asshole to succeed, like some would have you think.
This method I'm going to display you is significantly different to the treatment that most guys on Tinder use.
Why The Common Tinder Strategy Doesn't Work
The majority of guys on Tinder have no strategy when it comes to using Tinder to meet up with chicks.
They say “Hi” and then talk away randomly, hoping that the damsel will miraculously say “let's hangout”, or attempt and make the lady attracted to them by the sheer volume of conversation.
Other guys have a “strategy”, but they've based it on what they've seen other guys on Tinder do. I call it the common strategy.
It's no wonder then that this common strategy which copies the deeds of most guys on Tinder is exactly the same as the no-strategy treatment.
In the end, both groups don't know what it takes to be successful on Tinder… it's just that one group realizes they don't know while the other doesn't.
So whether a stud's using no-strategy or using the common strategy (reminisce they're the same thing), this is usually how it goes down when they're attempting to meet a woman off Tinder:
Is that similar to what you say on Tinder when you're attempting to hookup or go on a date?
It's packed with opportunities to fail. It's packed with opportunities to crash and burn.
It's hopeful. The visible shortfall with this treatment is that the dude isn't certain that he's got a date until very late in the process (step 6). This means significant time and effort is wasted before he finds out that she's not truly interested in meeting up – he's just wasted a week talking to a doll who doesn't want to meet him. Sound familiar?
It's blind. Just like being hopeful, the stud isn't downright sure if the woman wants to hookup, date, or just hangout until right at the end when he asks her out. If she only wants to hangout while he wants hook-up, he's just wasted his time.
It's a constant pursue. The boy pursues to get her number, then again he pursues to hear, “Yes, I’ll go on a date with you.” It’s hard work and no joy. Then after all that he can only hope that chick turns up for the date. The firmer a dude pursues, the less attraction she will feel toward him. This is where severe disinterest sets in.
It takes a long time. The boy has to scramble to hold her attention and maintain her interest for an extended period. This is why conversation dries up or stops fully, causing a female to lose interest. And the fact that the conversation revolves around boring topics doesn't help.
A high flake rate. The time framework inbetween asking for a date and going on a date is puny. She might have only said yes to be nice or maybe she switches her mind, which means she’ll end up cancelling the meet up (aka flaking) at the last moment. This frequently happens to some guys , and they believe this sort of flaking is normal and expected on Tinder.
So you can see that the way most guys talk on Tinder is ineffective – it's sluggish, it's risky and it takes a lot of effort.
If you want consistent results you need to stop floundering on that treacherous date path that most guys go after… You need to embark implementing a strategy that’s proactive and laser-focused.
I'm going to display you what this proactive and laser-focused strategy is and exactly how you can use it to meet up with a geyser of ladies.
The strategy will make things a hell of a lot lighter and quicker for you…
Cultivate a Date: Plant the Seed with Date-Talk
**When I say “date” from here on I'm using it as a substitute for any meet up. It could be an actual date, a hookup or a casual hangout – I'll tell you more about it later.
This is the turning point which rolls the common Tinder strategy on it's head.
Rather than asking for a date at the very end of the Tinder interaction, the topic of a date is raised at the beginning of the Tinder conversation.
It means that instead of waiting for the “ideal time” to ask for a date, you raise the topic of the date as quickly as the conversation permits.
Recall that this isn't a request for a date, it's simply bringing date-talk in as a topic of conversation.
It's called Planting The Seed – it's where you subtly (or not so subtly) plant an idea in their minds, creating an pic about your (possible) date practice.
The seed that you plant will be fed by her imagination, and over time it will crystallize into a definite date-expectation that excites her.
It sounds a little airy-fairy, I know, but all it basically means is you mention a possible date which gets women thinking about actually meeting you.
It converts you from just another Tinder-guy in the crowd to a dude that she's thinking about meeting up with. And that's no petite thing.
It converts you from just another Tinder-guy in the crowd to a boy that she's thinking about meeting up with. And that's no puny thing.
Providing you a leg-up from the rest of the Tinder competition is just one reason why bringing date-talk into the conversation early works so well, here are more:
- Date-talk provides a clear path Early date-talk gives your conversation direction and purpose, a light at the end of the tunnel. You won't have to bounce from (boring) topic to (boring) topic, hoping that somehow you randomly hit the jackpot and get a date. You and the woman will both be on the same page, which means you’re able to progress to a physical meetup quicker. It’s lean and efficient.
- Date-talk is amazing conversation fodder Date-talk is one of the juiciest topics to talk about on Tinder, it's lustful and interesting so it's almost unlikely not raise feelings of excitement and happiness. Leaving that topic out until the end of the process is amazingly wasteful, yet most guys don't even realize what they're missing. Rather than being a brief and awkward topic after getting a girl’s number, date talk should become a pile of your Tinder conversations – the ultimate temptation instrument in your arsenal.
- Date-talk smashes through communication and attitude barriers The majority of Tinder conversations are spent tip-toeing around the elephant in the room: you both find each other attractive, you both sort of want to meet up, but you feel like you need to play a game to avoid the topic. Date-talk is like releasing a pressure valve, with the result being fully open and fair communication. It's refreshing.
- Date-talk maximizes anticipation Have you noticed how you’re more excited when you’re about to go on vacation than you are coming home? That's because of anticipation, an exceptionally powerful emotion. Bringing up date talk early in the conversation means you can squeeze out all the anticipation from this succulent topic, leaving nothing behind.
- Date-talk is less work for you You don’t have to pursue. The seed that you plant will grow into anticipation and make her feel excited. After that it will bloom into expectation so that going on a date is a certainty… Because of that, going on a date is no longer a question of IF, but WHEN, which means you never have to ASK. The clunky and scary “So would you like to go on a date with me?” proposal is no longer an issue for you.
- Date-talk is certain Most ladies love being led – it’s like you’re reading them an arousing story where they’re the main character. And because the date is implied, you'll never have to ask (or grovel) for a date meaning you can maintain a certain persona. You'll be certain of your date much earlier, providing you lump of mind.
Rather than following the long and treacherous “Will you go on a date with me?” path that’s total of hard work, plant the seed early and let her imagination do all the hard work for you.
But wait, what if she doesn't want to go on a date?
So what happens if your conversation violates down during date talk?
What if she says she doesn’t want to go on a date or drape out with you?
Well… That’s a FANTASTIC outcome!
It seems strange to think that, but the reason is elementary…
Because rather than wasting your time and energy on a dud prospect, which would happen if you left date talk to later in the conversation, you can instead concentrate your efforts on high-potential Tinder targets.
By rapidly filtering your high-potential matches, you’re able to concentrate your efforts on those that will give you the best results, making your Tinder successes skyrocket!
How to Raise Date-Talk and Plant The Seed
So now that you know how powerful this method can be, here's how you do it:
1. Look for an chance to strike while the metal is hot.
The best time to plant the seed (raise date-talk) is when your conversation is going well and she seems reasonably interested in you – it could be after you make her laugh, after she compliments you or after she’s asked you a series of individual questions (which demonstrates interest).
You want to do it as quickly as the conversation permits – it might be instantly after your opener, or it might be your 5th or 6th message.
Two. Once you see your chance, raise the idea of your meet up.
Recall that you always have the capability to guide the conversation wherever you want. Funneling the conversation toward the topic of your date is no exception, and it’s amazingly effortless.
You simply pick a comment or topic out of your current conversation and link it to your date.
The suggestion for the date should flow sleekly from conversation, with an air of acceptance that the very first date is a given inbetween the two of you and incorporating a hint of humor.
You can do it by relating the current conversation topic to a date:
Reminisce originally you're just casually raising the topic of the date – keep it lighthearted.
Or you can simply bring up the date topic from out of nowhere:
Three. Provide elementary imagery of a positive date/meetup practice.
This will create a vision in her mind and commence to build the anticipation of your date.
This step can be incorporated when you raise the topic (Two) or instantly after.
Be descriptive but don’t go overboard; you want to give her mind enough room to fantasize.
Dangle the date before her eyes and let her mind do the rest.
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That’s it! … Once you’ve finished step #Trio the date will be well and truly planted in her mind.
It’s now an expected event rather than a possible or even unlikely event – which is exactly what you want.
Using Tinder for Hook-up, a Hookup or a Normal First-Date
Whether you want a Tinder hookup, a date with a relationship in mind, or innumerable nights of Tinder hook-up, the date-talk method is still the same.
The only switch that you need to make is in relation to the meet up that you describe (step #Trio above).
If you're only looking for hook-up, then you need to subtly (or not so subtly) allude to this, rather than creating expectations of a normal date which will potentially lead to a relationship.
It's best to be downright open and fair about what you're looking for.
If you want an intimate meet up, don't say you want a date and pretend you're looking for a relationship – you'll be wasting the women time and you're own.
But you can't just say “come over to my place and love intercourse”… well you can, but your success rate will be low because that description is not inviting or intriguing.
So spruce your description up a bit.
Rather than “come over and have lovemaking”, use a very basic description like “we'll kick back, see some netflix with chocolate-chip ice fluid and cuddle on the couch…” which is a much better alternative.
It doesn't specify “hookup” exactly, but it gives and indication that an intimate evening can be expected, and will most likely lead to lovemaking.
Here's an example of a damsels description for a date – after being asked directly what she dreamed to do on a date:
Cuddle-fest meant hookup – she said (and demonstrated) this after she wrote this message.
But be mindful of how the woman responds to your descriptive suggestion, because she might just think all it means is Netflix and guiltless cuddles!
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Your Chance for Tinder Lovemaking
There is endless chance for joy and casual hookups on Tinder.
There's absolutely no reason why you can't have lovemaking with a different chick each night of the week using this method ( it happens! )…
There a chicks that are looking for the exact same thing as you, and that's fine.
But it should be noted that albeit there's potential to go on a date with almost every one of your Tinder matches, the proportion of damsels who will be open to lovemaking on the very first meeting is lower.
Fence sitters who don’t normally meet up on the very first date can be swayed. But in any point in time, there will be fewer chicks who are loosely open and comfy with having hookup with a stranger from Tinder on the very first meeting, compared to 2nd or subsequent dates.
If lovemaking is all you want, you’ll be able to fulfill your needs more consistently with some patience by going on two or more dates.
With each successive date you go on the probability of more intimate meet ups will increase.
Generally, it’s the third or fourth date that will produce what you desire.
Who knows, with a little patience you might even build a fine relationship!
But keep in mind that with each successive date, the bond, emotions and expectations inbetween you and the chick will also switch.
This comes with an inherent responsibility to manage those relationships – for the sake of the damsels you are meeting and also to avoid unenviable and messy circumstances.
What I'm telling is go for what you want, but also be aware of what they want and be respectful.
With that said, let's wrap it up!…
What to say on Tinder to Get a Ladies Number
Let's recap what the damsel has been thinking up until now
- She's attracted to you – you matched!
- She was intrigued and interested after you sent a good opener.
- She's liking flirting with you (with date-talk).
She's interested in meeting up with you (confirmed by date-talk).
That's basically everything you need to progress to a date or hookup – which is pretty cool considering that you would have achieve it in just a few brief messages and in a matter of minutes.
Now, you could proceed flirting and loving the conversation… but that will only increase the risk of having the conversation turn stale, or stop fully.
You're already in a winning position: you've got the meetup.
You can't get in a better position that that…
BUT, you CAN go rearwards by talking too much and having the conversation go stale.
So it's always best to recognize when you're going well and don't shove it – having her (and you) wanting more is always a better option than overdoing it… Less is more!
Now the only thing you need Tinder for is getting her number.
Previously, when you were using the common Tinder strategy, you might have found it difficult, and a little scary to get a number… because truly, you had no reason to ask for it.
There was no future expectation of anything happening, so you just would have hoped that she would suggest it up you.
But now that exact same task becomes effortless because you have a strong reason for requesting it – you've got a meetup to organize. So all you need to say is something like:
“What's your number so we can organize the details of our [insert meetup description]”
You've acquired her number , she's interested in you and she wants to go on a date with you !
Pretty cool, huh!?
You now know exactly what to say on Tinder to get what you want 🙂
…But there's just one more thing.
You also need to know what NOT to say on Tinder so your dates and hookups don't fall down the drain because you say the wrong thing.
What Not to Say on Tinder
Conversation Mistakes
A lot of the time if you simply avoid conversation mistakes, you’ll impress the chick you're talking to by default.
Here is the list of errors you need to be aware of and avoid at all costs.
- Don’t concentrate on boring information and topics. Avoid topics like the weather, work and school, which people talk about every single day. Your greatest danger is routine and familiarity.
- Don’t be afraid to fail – to be bold and take risks. If you always tiptoe around, you’ll never make an impression on your Tinder target. Treat Tinder like the game it is; attempt out different methods and approaches. If something fails, learn from it and then play again.
If you always tiptoe around, you’ll never make an impression…
- Don’t argue and get defensive. You should arch like the branches in the wind, always staying tranquil and collected.
- Don’t make the mistake of asking lots of questions in an effort to create conversation. Your conversation shouldn’t be an interrogation packed with interview-style questions and answers. Have you ever noticed how old friends speak in statements? Their conversation isn’t a series of back and forward questions, but rather interesting statements that feed off one another.
- Don’t be negative. Nagging, criticism and complaining are ugly qualities that will bring the mood of the conversation down.
- Don’t overshare. Oversharing leads to boredom and familiarity. It’s a superb paradox – the less she knows about you, the more she’ll want to know. Getting to know each other isn’t a race, so don’t force it. Let it happen naturally.
- Don’t tell her directly that you’re a nice or funny man. It reeks of desperation and insecurity. Good guys don’t need to tell people they’re nice or funny. It will expose itself naturally through the conversation.
- Don’t unnecessarily apologize. Apologizing unnecessarily to a lady you only began talking with is the quickest way to turn her off you. If you make a mistake or say an unfunny joke, don’t run or hide from it – own it! Learn from the practice and don’t dwell on it, she’ll quickly leave behind.
- Don’t make the mistake of over-complimenting chicks to make them feel good. They receive the same compliments every day. Give them an occasional and unique compliment and it will keep them wanting more.
- Don’t let conversations affect your emotions. Keep yourself busy, have conversations with lots of women and don’t stress if they don’t reply straight away.
- Don’t be overly persistent. You may think that staggering your Tinder target with attention will coax her of your affection – instead it will woo her of your impatience and insecurity.
- Don’t talk too much about yourself. The conversational concentrate should be on her – everyone’s beloved topic is themselves. When damsels say things like, “He was so interesting” or “He is so effortless to get along with,” sometimes it’s just a substitute for, “I was the concentrate of the conversation, and it made me feel good.” Plus, when you’re focusing on your Tinder target, you’ll be less self-conscious, which will make you seem more certain.
If you avoid the conversation mistakes you'll be likely to impress the lady you're talking to automatically.
What to Say on Tinder: Summary
Utter Tinder Conversation and Message Examples
Here are a duo of utter examples of what to say on Tinder using the method that we've been through, all the way from begin to finish: And here's the rest of the Siri conversation I demonstrated you earlier:
That goes to display how quick and effortless it can be to get a damsels number, and get a date or Tinder hookup lined up.
Four messages is not out of the ordinary. But there's no need to race, anywhere from 4-12 messages will be fine.
Conclusion
A Tinder match means you're both attracted to each other and you're both (kind of) interested in meeting up.
So talk about meeting up, flirt and have joy discussing your potential date.
Be fair about what you want, but say it in an a way that's enticing.
Then when you're both excited for meeting up, get her number and meet up!
…It all seems pretty evident how you can lightly get a date or hookup using Tinder, doesn't it? 😉
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